because of that last post, I just want to note to dudes who say, “Well men don’t notice/care about [insert body feature women might be insecure about here,” as a way of trying to help women with their insecurities, you should note before you speak that:
-not all women are attracted to men
-even women who are attracted to men don’t necessarily care about what you think about their body
-emphasizing your feelings about women’s bodies and what is beautiful (even to say that you think certain things society deems undesirable on women are desirable) perpetuates the idea that women’s beauty and confidence is about and should resolve around male desire and regardless of your intention that’s hella problematic
so next time you’re gonna say, “men don’t care if you have a thigh gap” or “I as a man like women with body hair” or something along those lines, stop. don’t speak. just sit down and listen to women.
that was the most disappointing breakfast burrito experience i’ve had to date
the joke is i had any expectations to begin with
It’s okay to change your yes to a no. Yes’s aren’t permanent. They’re something we choose again and again, each and every day. Something we have the right to recall and reconsider as soon as saying yes no longer feels conducive to our wellbeing and happiness. It doesn’t matter whether you said yes to a job, a date, a relationship, sex, a favor to a friend, a social endeavor, or a vow of silence — you don’t ever have to commit to something that forces you to compromise who you are and what feels right; especially if it’s something you agreed to under pressure, intimidation, or force. Changing your yes to a no might make people angry. It might hurt their feelings, cause them to see you as a flake, and result in lost connections. But if saying no means staying true to yourself, honoring your feelings, and making self-care a priority, it’s worth it. You are worth it. Don’t let anyone convince you otherwise.
all of my aspirations in life
My sexuality is “I like pretty things”